Notes from ‘Busy’ by Tony Crabbe
This book was an interesting one; and one that is relevant in all walks of life. However there are some clear ideas that can be applied to teaching. The below are my notes:
‘Busyness’ is that frantic, always alert, multitasking that propels us through overburdened lives. It involves being always ‘on’, glancing regularly at our phones and jumping from task to task. It is the juggling, cramming, and rushing that makes up so much of our daily existence. It is urgency, distraction and exhaustion.
Why is busyness a bad thing?
- Busyness is bad for your health – accelerated wear and tear on the human body.
- Busyness is bad for relationships.
- Busyness is bad for your happiness – people who focus on external values – money, stuff and status – are less happy and less healthy than people who focus on things that busyness kills: relationships, personal growth, or contribution to your community.
- Busyness is bad for your career – it is not quantity that matters – the thing that matters it is attention and differentiation: people who are able to cut through the frenzy of activity are who get notice.
- Busyness is bad for business – creativity is needed over busy.
Why we’re really busy
- Lack of control – we give up our sense of control and feel helpless in the face of so many demands.
- Lack of choice – We are too lazy to think of alternatives; busyness is the easiest option.
- Lack of boundaries – work life boundary is diminished due to technology.
- Lack of focus.
- Lack of confidence.
- Lack of momentum.
How to find time – quick ways to create space in your life
- Use the word ‘because’ – when turning down a request that will take up time use the word because; this makes the listener respond as though there must be a good reason.
- Switch off – be deliberate and intentional when you ‘check in’ on main and messages.
- Turn off the notifier – turn off the ping or email notification.
- Kill a meeting – either cancel a meeting or don’t attend.
- Think of the time … and double it – when planning how long a task will take, estimate it and then double it.
- Watch the clock – if you want to get through a large amount of tasks carefully watch the clock as this will focus you and help you work quicker.
- Finish on time – this helps raise time awareness, and it also stops creating space and time in our diaries.
- Start Quicker – read through a task or think through a task early on – then leave it and work on something else – your subconscious will be thinking through the task which will make it easier when attempting the main body.
- Clear your head – write down ideas rather than remember them, don’t analyse things when you record them. Go through your brain-dump list regularly.
- Hold on a minute – think through a task before you start it to ensure you are doing it the most efficient way.
- Take a (good) break – When you take a break (and do) make sure it is a valuable one and do something different than you have been doing.
Feeling More In Control
You cannot control the demands made on you, however you can feel in control of your response to those demands.
- Let go – let the inputs wash by you, and focus on the outputs you choose to make.
- It’s not your fault you can’t do it all – let go of your desire to do it all.
- Create a rhythm to you day, build in breaks and recovery tim to reduce you allostatic load and to increase you ability to immerse yourself in the things that are important.
How to Make Better Choices
- We make great choices when we’re cold, but in the grip of temptation (when we’re hot) all our best intentions disappear. So stay ‘cold’ for longer, and make better decisions about your priorities.
- When the brain is tired, we’re more likely to do the thing that requires less choice, less risk/ That means the busy, depleted brain is less able to make the choices to step beyond busyness. Make your choices when your brain is fresh.
- Boundaries restrict us, but they also protect us; we have to set them, and negotiate them ourselves.
- Manage your boundaries in three ways: offer more to get more in return; be clear about which boundaries matter for you.
- When negotiating don’t offer just one option; but three; more often than not, people will choose the middle ‘compromise’ option.
Being Different: Positioning and Differentiation
- There are two ways to succeed: through productivity (the ‘More’ game) or through differentiation. The best way is to differentiate yourself; do things better.
- There are four strategic positions you can take: everything, everyone; audience-based; product-based; niche. Everything, everyone is the most common, and it’s rubbish. Audience-based differentiation means serving the unique needs of your key stakeholders; product-based differentiation means developing unique capabilities or expertise.
- Trade-offs: choosing not to pursue great ideas in order to go deep on others is hard, but that is strategy.
- The big thing to remember if you want to think better is to minimise your multitasking. Switching regularly between tasks makes you slower and dumber, even if you feel productive.
- Do one thing at a time by getting things out of your head and externalising your thinking.
- Cut down on the amount you switch your attention between tasks by working in bigger chunks of time, and minimising distraction.
- Busyness is a form of procrastination: doing lots of simple, un-taxing activities rather than a few important ones.
- The four horseman of procrastination are: Perfection, Mood, Fear and Dependence.
- Deal with perfection by creating momentum through thin-slicing and swiss-cheesing. (Thin-slicing is tackling a task for dedicated fixed periods of time; whereas swiss-cheesing is tackling bits of a task one by one).
- When you’re ‘not in the Mood’ make progress despite that by selecting useful, but easier tasks; reverse your mood with music or movement.
- To make a less defensive, more positive approach requires confidence. To build confidence you need to work on your self-esteem and self-efficacy.
- Low self-esteem makes us poorer judges of the best focus of our attention, focusing on keeping everyone happy all of the time, and trapping us in a prevention mindset.
- Have the courage to be imperfect, vulnerable, and to make mistakes – all three things we need to move beyond busyness.
- High self-efficacy makes you more able to take the ‘road less travelled’ – it increases your belief, lets you persist longer in the face of challenges, and you experience more flow.
- When you’re confident you will be able to cope no matter what ; you will have self-efficacy.
It is important to ‘Make Good Intentions Stick’
- Good intentions don’t last long; if you intent to do something, take action quickly! It’s all about momentum.
- It’s easy to get overwhelmed and lapse into inertia. So start building momentum by getting really clear about the behaviour you want to change, and the context you’ll make that change in.
- Start really small, build on the fact that we like to be consistent and make the next step for yourself obvious.
- To make lasting changes you need willpower. But one thing is almost certain: your willpower is weaker than you think it is.
- Willpower is limited; it gets used up, leaving us ego depleted and less able to resist further temptations.
- The good news is that you can strengthen your willpower. A strengthening of willpower in one area spreads to other aspects of your life.